Taking charge of your life 2005

If you were asked to look into your life today, how do you feel about it now? Is it uncomfortable, dissatisfactory, boring or restless? If the answer is yes, then are you sure you are optimizing your potential in your life and relationships? Have you thought of wanting to recharge your energy, boost your confidence, rejuvenate your relationships, and shape up your finances so you could feel inspired to enjoy a better and multi-facetted, fulfilling life? If you have then its time you made the theme of transforming your life as a 2005 new years resolution.

A vast majority if not all of us naturally have dreams we would like to realize and things we would like to do differently in our lives and yet we are so busy concentrating on urgent things that are less important that even our dreams and good intentions appear to be huge and overwhelming, that we never get to do anything about them. We don?t seem to realize that just because something is urgent it doesn?t mean it?s important. If you are in that situation then I have good news for you. Believe or not, the truth is you have the power in you to transform your life and to change things within and around you so you can start taking full control of the inevitable challenges that show up in your life and relationships.

Be Proactive

Being proactive by taking that giant step to transforming your life and relationships begins by first accepting who you are and secondly, by knowing where you are right now and where you want to be and thirdly by closing that gap between where you are now and where you want to be. The trouble is, a vast majority of us are trapped in the habit of convincing ourselves that life changes are practically un-attainable because we think we don?t have enough time, support, resources and money (finances).

Here are few keynotes that can challenge you jump-start your life today. It is worth knowing at this point that every presumed living thing (human beings, animals, fish, plants and trees) are all governed by two laws of life. These are:

1. Everything in life must Grow

2. Everything in life must contribute


A) Everything in life must grow

It is true that every living thing must grow or it dies. If a plant stops growing it dies. This rule applies to your life as well as your relationships, your body, your mind and spirit. Its either you grow or you die. So if you are going to take that step of transforming and maximizing your life potentials, then your first task will be to ensure that every step you take won?t just be a one big giant step but one that?s broken into small chunks of steps that you can nurture and increase. This is growth.

If you like working out then you know that for changes to start showing in your body as a result of exercising, your body needs to be exposed to regular and constant training. And the frequency of your training determines the rate and progress of your growth in muscles, mind and body. This is true with your life, your relationships, your work and every other aspect of your life.

So if you want to see any significant movement and changes to your life, then know that your life has a constant challenge to constantly grow so it can improve and strengthen and become more fulfilling, powerful and passionate so you can live life at its highest level and have that extra-ordinary quality sense of life. Life is not a fixed thing and its not something that can just be handled by itself, it must grow and it is a process that takes time. The secret is in enjoying and appreciating every process as an achievement. So how do you start applying these changes today? First Start by closing the gap. How do you close that Gap? You need to ask yourself a new question which is:

where is my life right now and where do I need my life to be?

To answer this question:

First, you need to be honest with yourself by opening your eyes, not your physical eyes but your spiritual eyes (inner eyes) so you can begin to see your life in a clear context. This will in turn help you to gradually close that gap between where you are and where you want to be as you constantly connect with your dreams, achievements and intentions thus challenging you to develop invaluable qualities to help you overcome inevitable obstacles from your past and present so you can use them to shape up your future life. Remember this will not be an overnight reality but a continuous growth with visible changes.

Abraham Lincoln says -:

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Secondly, you need to have a foresighted and vibrant vision with realistic dreams or goals.
People living an extra-ordinary life (fulfilling life) are people who are great masters at picturing, exploring and specifying their goals. So in an attempt to answer the new question in your life, you need to adopt these invaluable qualities by starting to ?think huge?. Learn to consistently visualize your future and then connect and explore with your future dreams then specify your indented outcomes. This is why it is important that you define genuine dreams and not dreams like I would want my *** organs changed, or having a face-lift. Be specific and be a master of clarity when it comes visualizing your goals and dreams.

Thirdly, you need to learn how to constantly deal with the inevitable challenges that constantly pop up in the span of your life.
Believe it or not, as long as you are part of this ship called life, its most inevitable challenges will show up sooner or later. The reason is life is a ship which consists of people with different beliefs, values, rules and laws and as long as our personal life is in constant communion with the people around us, expect there to be conflicts. Remember your happiness in life is not determined by what you posses but by your invaluable qualities to develop ongoing relationships with yourself and the people around you as well as how well you relate and handle or face up to the challenges of life. No matter which way you choose, the path of life is narrow. But the secret to true happiness is to learn to appreciate and enjoy life through its narrowness by using your past and present challenges to shape up your future.

As you constantly apply these factors in to the structure of your life and by making absolute the growth factor by nurturing and expanding every aspect of your life, then you will begin to know your strengths and see things in perspective. And as you grow you will also begin to focus on your strengths and understand how others perceive you. Pretty soon you will begin to close that gap as you get even more inspired to do the things you enjoy and you will be constantly challenged to connect with your own special essence.

B) Everything in life must contribute

The second law that applies is that every living thing must contribute. Lets us a plant again as an example - Unless a plant can contribute by giving that colorful and graceful view to your garden, your garden will look dead until that plant is eliminated or removed. The same applies to your life, until you can find a way to contribute in meaningful ways you will not feel that fulfillment and you will never enjoy the pleasure of living. So until that element of non- contribution is permanently eliminated, your life is as good as stagnant water. When water in a river is not flowing or moving then it is not contributing. And if its not contributing (moving) it becomes stagnant. Stagnant water is unhealthy, its dead and its not good for anything. So if your life is not contributing then it is stagnant. Stagnant lives are unhealthy, dead and should be eliminated. It is just a fact of life that if something fails to contribute, eventually it gets eliminates from the face of earth either by evolution or something else.

To summarize, let me say that if you need to feel some kind of fulfillment and excellence in your life, you need to consistently apply the two laws of life that we have briefly discussed. And that is by:

1. Making absolute the growth factor in all areas of your life and,

2. Making absolute the contributing factor in all areas of life.

And to achieve this you need to learn to ask yourself a new question. Where is my life today and where do I want it to be? As soon as you ask yourself this question you will begin to focus on your position as far as where you are now and where you want to be is concerned. After that you will be challenged to close that gap by way of connecting with your real desires, dreams and goals.

Let me tell you something, no matter how much you feel someone loves you, or no matter how much money you?ve got, if you don?t grow and contribute then you won?t be happy with yourself in your life, relationships and work. Look at it in this way ? If your life can?t grow and contribute then its most likely that you are doing the same thing over and over again.

Albert Einstein says ? :

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
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Hope this article can add a little change to your life.

Humphrey